For those who are struggling to find their place in the world, I want to share some thoughts I’ve been mulling over in my head recently.
While there is no rule book for life, I truly feel that the universe guides you along a certain path, where you are meant to fit in. Any time my life has felt difficult, it was because I was trying to forge my own path, rather than the one that I’m meant for. Everything I’ve ever learned in science tells me that the natural world seeks balance, and everything I’ve learned through personal experience tells me that anything that upsets that balance will be met with opposing force.
Think about it:
If you go along with traffic and obey the laws, nothing really happens. But when you fight the flow, drive aggressively, and weave in/out of traffic at 100 miles an hour, other drivers around you will inevitably act out in opposition and try blocking you in so you cannot get around them. This, in my opinion, is the universe seeking to balance out the thing that is disrupting the flow.
In my own personal experience, the times where I’ve been the most depressed/anxious have been when I was attempting to force something that was not meant to be. Whether it was bending over backwards for a person who wasn’t meant for me, or pursuing a degree that would ultimately not pan out well because I’m just not built for math.
However, when I was walking the path I was supposed to walk, I could feel it. When things start to line up in unexpected ways, and the timing is perfect, I believe that’s the universe rewarding the fact that you are contributing to its overall balance. I can see this trend in personal relationships, tense situations, and interactions with other life.
- I know at least a few close friends who have trouble finding good guys to date. They will share their horror stories with me, asking what I think about it. I can only speak from my own experience, but I’m sure a lot of people who have found their soulmate will tell you that it was by a funny coincidence or that it was totally unexpected. The key here is that good things like this happen ONLY when you stop trying to force things to happen with the wrong people. When you just let go of the idea that you can control everything and you allow the universe to add balance to your life, it will send you the right person if there is a void that truly needs to be filled. And this is a much better way of getting someone than forcing something that’s not meant to be and being miserable for the rest of your life.
- Anyone who has ever been in an argument knows deep down that things only escalate and get worse if you yell back at someone who is yelling at you. Maybe I’ve only discovered the solution because I go to therapy, but I’ve learned that the only way to get your way in an argument is to remain calm. The reasoning behind this is that the more a person screams/acts out emotionally, the more you will appear logical, trustworthy, and of sound mind when you choose not to yell back. I believe this is attributed to the fact that balance has been introduced when you realize you cannot control someone else, only yourself. And in nearly every case of me trying this method, I have been rewarded either with being taken more seriously, or gaining whatever else I needed to gain in the situation.
INTERACTIONS WITH OTHER LIFE:
- If you encounter a snake, it will do what snakes do and attempt to strike you. That is, IF you upset the balance and act in a way that makes the snake feel threatened. (I know this because my dad picked up a wild snake, which caused it to bite him out of self defense. But he continued to hold the snake, and it realized that he meant no harm because he did not try to restrain it. And it didn’t strike him again.) Nature can tell the difference between an “animal person” and a non-“animal person”. The animal people will get along a thousand times better with animals because they allow the animals to be themselves. However, those who have nothing but negative things to say about animals almost always tried to control the animal and faced the consequences of upsetting the balance that they should have respected instead.
I think the main flaw with humanity is that we overestimate our intelligence and mistake it for absolute control over our surroundings. There are always unintended negative consequences every time a human tries to assert control over their surroundings. My answer to this is for us to stop ignoring our roots. I think we have to listen to our surroundings and act accordingly, because we are still so very connected with nature as long as we’re living on Earth. It takes some faith, but I think if we learn to let go a little bit, we will get more of what we want in life. It sounds contradictory, but it’s the only way I’ve found any peace in recent years.